Favorite Question...

Following on from my previous post on how to deal with feeling confused or

overwhelmed, here’s a spin-off on one of my favorite coaching questions that

you might find useful.

As usual, this is something I would normally use during a live interaction, so

I’d be interested to know if it works for you in a “self-talk” situation.

When you’re feeling overwhelmed, simply do this.

Stop.

Take a deep breath.

Ask yourself the simple question below and answer the first thought that comes

to mind– out loud or in writing (not just in your head):

If I were at my best... what one thing would I do right now?

You’ll find that you have the answer.

Don’t shake your head.

You will know the answer.

And it will pop in your mind straight away. Most probably followed by a lot of

‘yeah but’s. Reasons to justify the fact you’re not doing that very thing.

And that’s okay. What matters is that you verbalize the answer. And doing it out

loud or in writing somehow “tricks” you into some level of commitment to yourself.

Often, you’ll actually think of a sequence of activities… And voila, you’ll know what

to do with yourself.

The next step of course is to start doing it!

Chances are you’re not feeling overwhelmed right now since you’re busy reading

this post. But remember the question for the next time you’re feeling stuck (write

it on a sticky note and leave it wherever this usually happens to you).

And be sure to let me know if that works for you.

Yann

Yann Vernier – Personal Coach