Just Be Yourself?
You've probably heard this or some similar advice before...
To be truly happy, just be yourself.
Well, it's easier said than done!
Most people don't realize, or don't like to admit, that they're influenced by
a group in which they want to fit. By someone they want to be like.
They want to be themselves, yet they want to be like someone else. Celebrities,
mentors, family members, fictional heroes, ... you name it.
As soon as you accept this group or person exists, and identify what it is that
you want to emulate and why, you're on the path to greater feelings of fulfillment.
Here are the 3 steps I like to go through. It can take 10 minutes. It can take
10 hours. The exact questions vary depending on the conversation, but here is
the essence:
1 - Who would you like to be like?
2 - What specifically would you like to emulate?
3 - Why are these things important to you? (one by one)
And then the hard-core question, the fourth step (okay I lied there are 4 steps!):
If you could have these things and be true to yourself, how would you do it?
Once we've got some answers to these, both of us have achieved much greater
clarity about the direction we should take.
And smart people like readers of this blog can probably use this as a guideline
for self-questioning. For you... it'll be 10 minutes :-)
All the best
Comments
Focus on what you want and why....you're mind and the 'universe" gets you there! Great post.
John
Mortgage and Credit Coach
Mortgage and Credit Coach?
This seems like excellent positioning!
All the best,
Yann Vernier - Personal Coach
I've spent a lot of time doing this sort of self-evaluation over the years, although I've never seen it written out nice and clearly like this. Thank you Yann for your insight. As we experience more of life, I think that we naturally reach a stage where we give up on trying to be something/one else and become more and more just who we are not hiding that person from others. Almost any 80 year old is a great example of this. It's a 'take it or leave it, this is what you get' stage. I so enjoy seniors, and I think this one of the main reasons.
Sue Crutcher, Life Empowerment Coach
I chose a different path. Imperturbable. When you see the chains you can break them. Approval and Control are the biggest(all others are sub sets)
Personal Freedom is a inside job.
See you in the desert.
Tim, Information Filter
Hope the naked woman was worth looking at Yann! Couldn't post comment there so did it here. Haven't used the 'share' button before so am leary as computer has enough issues.
Reminds me of the morning I heard tapping on my window 7 stories off the ground; naturally, I got out of bed I ripped open the curtains to see what it was. It was very early morning and I only saw a silhouette. I thought in that instant it was King Kong. Something large with arms and legs was sprawled over most of my window. So I closed the drapes, went to the washroom, had a shower. And heard the tapping noise again. I honestly just couldn't grasp what was happening ... I wasn't dressed yet ... but, being the curious George(tte) that I am, I opened the curtains again. The picture wasn't processing ... just didn't make sense at all. I had breakfast, got dressed and went back. There was a window washer just hanging around ... I'm pretty sure the window was clean by then. What could I do? I waved, mouthed 'good morning' and went to work. Another day ... another adventure.
Sue
It just needs a bit more text!! And even a picture...
I'm not on a mission to outdo April, I really had a naked woman outside my window earlier this afternoon.
You'll have to wait until I recover and put the post up for more details.
Yann
Yann Vernier - Personal Coach
PS: Thank you for the funny story about your morning visitor!
The second entry in my Journal I started ten years ago was a two pager about what I saw as the Ideal Rob, and I am still fighting to get there-- life is a journey my friend...
You know that quote by one of those old Greeks (Plato?) "the unexamined life is not worth living?" I happen to think that is maybe the key to enjoying life...Examine what makes you happy and do more of that, examine what you need to learn to open up new vistas, examine who you need to meet (and dump) to have better conversations, and examine what experiences will likely be transcendant.
Rob
Is Your Corporation Protecting You?
Scott A Bell
Oh, no. More thinking!
Sheridan
I am just me, and happy being me. I suppose I should wish to be like someone younger, wealthier, better looking, etc. but I really don't. I'm nuts - that's true, but I like being that way. I don't even really want anything more in life. I drive a Hyundai and I love that car - I picked it out. The things I want are things like curtains and towels. I don't remember the name of that song, but I love the line in it where the singer says something like "its not having what you want, it's wanting what you've got." Now don't get me wrong.... If someone dropped a million bucks on my lap tomorrow, I wouldn't have a problem going on a marathon shopping spree, but really I'm happy with what I have and happy being me.
Lisa McLellan
www.babysittingworld.com
I agree, it's easier said than done. Sometimes just "being who you are" is an excuse to not live up to your full potential.
Jennifer Skinner
Wardrobe Planning Expert
Very true you shouldn't worry about what others think, it only clouds your mind .
Focus Your Energy
Matthew Shields
Steve Chambers
Sales Training Expert
Xenia Zirgavna Onatopp Now that's a woman I'd love to be for a year!!!
But seriously folks! I LOVE ME!!!!
don't JUST BE YOURSELF
that's like those folks who refuse to wash, wear makeup, put on deodorant, wear their worst scumbies and think
love me for myself
well fuck that shit
(yes, I've been sipping port, so I get even more audaciously april with just 3 sips of alcohol)
no. I am SO hoping as your (not per se your, but your alln's) Romance Coach and Online Dating Coach, as your COACH, I want YOU to be YOUR BEST YOU.
All the best,
April BraswellRomance Coach, Online Dating Coach